You want to find The One, you want to date, you want your man to be this way, and you want the promises of happiness that seem to come with all these relationship tales on television and surrounding you. But, are you blocking your love and happiness in ways that you can’t even see?

How helpful is it to hang your sense of romantic joy on other people’s opinions–especially if those “people” are not designed like you? Tune in with China Noëlle to break down three biggest reasons why you might be blocking love and happiness right now.